I really found our recent interview with Wendy VanderWal Gritter helpful. Wendy is passionate about creating ‘generous spaces’ in Church, where people with different views on sexuality can meet together without judgment to share their stories, experiences and seek Jesus together.
With the current polarized and adversarial nature of the debate over same-sex relationships, this does sound rather unrealistic, with both sides passionately advocating their of truth. But what we embraced the idea that truth isn’t the most important thing?
Jesus taught that love is the greatest command, and similarly Paul said that love is ‘above all’ other commands (Col 3:14), and that we need to clothe ourselves with love and live in love, and that love is more important than faith and hope (1 Cor. 13:13). Love must shape every action and every word.
So if you’re interested in truth, love should be your primary concern.
It’s because we’ve put truth (or rather, our version of the truth) ahead of love, that so much pain and suffering has been caused in the name of Jesus.
If we, the Church, could really embrace the truth of love, all our disagreements over sexuality, or any issue, would be radically transformed. Church would be the most loving, accepting, and transformative place on earth.